Girl Power!

Here's to Good Women: may we know some, may we be one, and may we raise them.

This may be my motto.

In my 45 years of existence, I have known some amazing women. This week is Teacher Appreciation Week; School Nurses Day falls in there and it all culminates with Mother's Day. Over the years I have been left with  wonderful memories of women I have known, wonderful insights to women I used to know and have re-connected with (thank you, Facebook), and wonderful examples in women I see day-to-day. I've always wanted to say thank you for a lesson learned or a characteristic exemplified. I'd like to name/list and highlight each woman.

I will use some names, some will remain nameless, and I may even pseudonym (is that a verb?) a few. Here goes:

I was rather unmoved in elementary school by any teachers: I was just trying to survive my insane childhood. The true beacon of light in my (and my siblings') world was Ellie Babbitt, the school nurse. She provided the only normalcy in my tangled childhood. I remember the feeling of comfort just being in her office. I'd hide from fourth grade monsters and run from things that didn't feel right at home. Sometimes, I'd be sick. But for most of the time, she was a soft place to land. I see Mrs. Forest, at the little elementary school my family loves, caring for attention seeking children. Mrs. Forest treats the ill, the injured, and the plain 'ol needy. She retires this year. She has taken on the cares of so many hearts; staff and students alike. It seems trite to say she will be missed. She is one of a kind: straight forward and loving.

• Jenn Barr. my first peek into the working world. She showed me the value of hard work, taught me to smoke, and I was in her wedding. She drove a Camaro, had huge Eighties' hair, and was a vegetarian. Jenn had it going on.
• Lydia: I also worked with her at Welsh Farms The Eatery at Panther Valley. My oldest child is named partially due to this great lady. She was tall with dark long hair and four kids. She didn't look a day over 22. She was simply elegant. As elegant as one can be in Allamuchy, NJ.
• Grace Finn: Grace once said to me, "I keep money aside from my husband. You never know when I might need an emergency fund." And I thought, "That's terrible! Doesn't romance and marriage mean anything? Wheres the trust?". Now, I understand. No, it doesn't mean there's a Swiss bank account with my millions, but there is something to be said for assurance. Grace also taught me about working smarter, not harder.
• Pat Shea: the woman was crazy. Bright, long, red hair that served as a parachute behind her (I swear, it was the only thing that slowed her down). She'd have a cigarette in both hands, selling banquet space. THAT woman could sell anything. Two sons and a husband, no need to tell you who ran that household.

Those are some of the women of my past past lives.  More currently, I'd like to shout out to:

• a waitress who was a raging alcoholic and an A Number 1 Enabler. She took care of so many people (mostly for tips) that she showed me why and where a boundary needs to be drawn.
• a manager so self-centered (cue Toby Keith's "I Wanna Talk about Me"), literally every sentence started with "I".
• a supervisor battling cancer. She showed me how to juggle. Employees, Administration, John Q. Public, husband, family. It What It Is.
• a supervisor in training. This lady is a hard working, no nonsense kind of lady that values fairness. I realized, I really admire that in a person.
• an intuitive, brilliant administrator that in one simple sentence explained to me why people are so selfish and don't listen. Sometimes I feel like sitting at her feet and listening to her life lessons, O Wise One.

The following list of women is women I've reconnected to via social media. My age group of friends fall somewhere between only seeing one another at reunions every ten years and tweeting inane, mundane moments.

• a preteen friend who is battling/survived cancer and is a teacher. I love her attitude, her committment to destroying this disease, and her joie de vivre. Ironically, I envied her big boobs as a teen. Now, I'd just switch places with her to take the pain.
• a lifelong friend who recently got her Master's to teach and raise awareness for Autism. She was always the Most Popular. And I realize how much she has taken on with her mother... been there, done that. I send my wish/love/support for more days with my mother to her....
• another lifelong friend that is also a teacher. Tough and gritty, but always fun. I miss her laugh and Emeraude. ("we weren't smoking")
• a high school friend that turned out exactly like what I admired her for: Her integrity. A wonderful mix of culture and "Kumbaya."
• a "rival". This woman was the dark haired mirror to me. I imagined for many, many years that this person was put on the face of the earth to want what I wanted, to have what I had. "Everyone has a rival", I'd say. Funny. She has such a caring love of beauty and has faith, that now I want to be like her. Tenho saudades de min.
• a high school friend I ran with. She was artistic, wild, and passionate. Still to this day: artistic and passionate. We all calm down a bit to raise daughters... Raise a glass of Chianti to Happiness, may it sit down next to you at the family table.

Countless others that seem to fill little holes in me. Women that run schools, are full time, incredibly devoted mothers, women who sit around (seemingly) pampering themselves... They all are amazing women in their own way.

My everyday is also filled with great women. My community abounds with them!

• a local business owner with a blend of Faith and humor, who epitomizes Southern dignity.
• a "young" administrator that has proved the Nay-sayers wrong.
• a bus driver who teaches me that "being present" is for safety as well as sanity.
• a co-worker who may only have 1 grown child at home, but everyday she has 160 on the busand her. And creatively loves and respects on them all.
• a fellow parent with the tenacity of a bulldog. She runs a house with four boys, the PTA, and a full time job and not a one suffers.
• a co-worker that has awakened my appreciation for a good book. And for a little glamour in our diesel world.
• Ms. Lola, who works at the neighborhood grocery store. As the years go by, she becomes more frail, but no less loving and involved. Knows the kids by name, will do any job they ask of her. She deserves a big hug. She makes me look forward to old age!
• a friend that has succeeded in a her career, remarried, and her life is straightening out. It is a pleasure to see good things happening for her.
• a military spouse who keeps it real. Worries about the right things and keeps a calm head about her. She's got courage.

Now to the future. When I was a manager at a local BBQ restaurant, there were a bevy of high school girls (and boys) that called me "Mommy." I was, in fact, Famous Mommy. They all make me so proud, to see what great women they have become.

• Kelly... she is me, 20 years ago. I love watching as she accomplishes at her age, what I did not. She has a beautiful eye in photography, a gorgeous baby, and a loving marriage. She doesn't seem to make the same mistakes I did... so maybe she's not too much like me! I learn from her. That's pretty cool.
• Kelli... a teacher. So supportive and smart. And married to your best friend. You got it right, honey.
• Alexpo...a NURSE! Oodles of admiration for you. What a satisfying profession. And Dom's not so bad either...
• Breanna... who showed me not only the meaning of integrity, but of empowerment. I have a Vogue habit now, because Breanna bought one for me and I realized how gorgeous the big beautiful world can be. I live vicariously through this brilliant woman.
• QT, Kitty, Katie... great mommys. They approach raising kids with a quiet clarity that's not fearful. And Zoe and Chase and Liam know it. Those are Famous Mommies!
• Courtney... laid way back there. Beautiful family, smart career, honest marriage. You are a force to be reckoned with.

Whew! I had to get those thoughts down! As you can see, this post does not touch upon my love and admiration for my family or Sissy. Mother's Day is coming! Stay tuned.